You and your girlfriend both have friends of the opposite sex, and there’s nothing wrong with that…until one day, an unexpected fear pops up in your mind when you realize, “my girlfriend has a guy best friend!” Well, let me warn you first that an outburst of jealousy may backfire at you, so don't be panic. We know all types of people exist and all kinds of friendships exist, so you'd better evaluate the risk before it turns into an issue.
What Should You Do When Your Girlfriend Has a Guy Best Friend?
Hold Your Jealousy Back
Remember that jealousy is a fire that would burn your bridges to her heart before you even build them. It is okay for people to be friends with the opposite sex, and it is okay to be jealous as a boyfriend, but it is not okay to tell her how unacceptable or suspicious you find her friendship with that guy.
Hang Out With Him
While trying to hide your feelings of jealousy, try going out with him and your girl to see how close they are. This way, you will be able to check how your girl acts around him and whether there are any hints of a little too much friendliness, you will also be able to know whether there is any need to be worried.
Welcome Him
Most women judge their boyfriends based a little on what their best friends think about them. If you get along well with her guy best friend, there is a high chance that she is not only seeing you as an understanding man, but also loving you more. If you keep a grudge against him without even knowing him, that would be unfair.
Make Them Talk
Ask about them. Ask about their friendship’s beginning and how it has been over the years, but don’t ask like you are interrogating them. A friendly conversation can reveal a lot about any histories of ‘more than friends’ situations your girlfriend and her best friend might have gotten into.
Be the One
Most men worriedly say, “My girlfriend has a guy best friend, so who she is more emotionally attached with?” That is something that should be worried about, in fact. However, try making your girlfriend more attached to you, instead. Be the one she would always call first, and do it with love.
Get Him a Girl
If he does pose a threat to your relationship and makes you feel insecure, and if he is single, then you can lessen the chances of him having an eye for your girlfriend if you help him find a girlfriend of his own. Talk to your girl about setting him up with someone, and she’d enjoy it, too.
Light It Up
You want to send that guy best friend as far away from your girl as possible, and this is only possible if your girl wants the same, which is unlikely. However, you can make her see the bad side of him, and support her whenever she gets into a fight with him, but beware not to complain about him yourself.
Don’t Overdo It
Do not be the bad guy by trying to cut every guy friend out of her life. She will have male friends, like you will have female friends, so make sure that you realize who is really a threat to your relationship.
But, Check Out These Signs That Show Their Relationship Is More than Best Friends
Does She Act Defensive?
Anyone would tell you not to worry when you tell them "My girlfriend has a guy best friend" and would suggest you to ask her about him directly, which is a good idea. If she gets hyper about it and defends him without much reason, read on…
Have You Met Him?
As said before, meeting this guy friend will clarify many things for you. If you have known your girl for a while, you should have met her very close friends by now. Not having met her ‘best friend’ can rightfully make you question.
What About His Introduction?
When was his name first introduced to you, and how? Did your girlfriend tell you herself that her guy best friend’s name is so and so, or did you just happen to find out when you saw/heard her talking to him? Did she seem secretive about it?
What’s the Motive?
Girls usually find guy friends to be more reliable with secrets and more comforting, which is why many girls have guy best friends. Is that the motive behind your girlfriend and her guy friend? It may be that he has been there for her, or it may be that he has some wrong intentions.
How Long Has It Been?
Consider the fact that school or college friends are usually the closest friends one makes in their lifetime, so if this guy friend had met your girl at a club and they became friends just since then, you know where this might go.
Are There Hidden Conversations?
Obviously, your girlfriend might be one of those people who deletes everyone’s messages before the phone gets too full, or on the other hand, there only be some messages deleted, especially those belonging to her ‘guy friend’. I’d say that’s enough cause for alarm.
Do You Hang Out Together?
There is no need to worry about a guy who is in her friend circle, because those are the people who she almost always meets up with, hangs out with, and takes you along with, too. Most of them might be her girlfriends’ boyfriends, so relax, the next time you think my girlfriend has a guy best friend and start worrying, evaluate the threat, then take action.
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